Tuesday 10 July 2018




1.     Harmless

From the physical point of view, illicit sexual relationship looks harmless and safe to both parties involved. But if you take a critical look at the nitty-gritty of the act, you will realize that it is beyond just touching, kissing, caressing and sexual intercourse, there is more to it. The resultant effect of the act is truly destructive; it affects the spirit, soul and body of the persons involved. That is why the book of Proverbs, which is a book of wisdom, reads:Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; Proverbs 6:32 MSG.

Don’t be deceived, it might looks harmless but it is actually destructive!

2.     Perfect

When it comes to sex outside the context of marriage, the saying that, “not all that glitters is gold,” comes very true. Looks can be deceptive and beauty is vain, says the Bible in Proverbs 31:30. Behind many looks and beauties lie destructive diseases, bad characters, evil motives, demon personified and many more. When you go into an illicit relationship based on facial value, you will be disappointed to find flaws and what you never bargained for.

It might look perfect but there are flaws beneath it!

3.     Excites

There is this illusion about sex that seems as if the pleasure and excitement would last forever, but that is never true. Illicit sex always comes with its momentary pleasure and excitement which always leaves a stigma of guilt and condemnation after the act. This might not be applicable to those whose consciences are dead. Never be deceived by the devil, the euphoria will not last long. You need to ask Amnon about his experience as recorded in 2 Samuel 13.

Illicit sexual relationship actually excites but it will leave you guilty!

4.     Pleasurable

There is no denying the fact that sex is pleasurable, but when it’s done outside the union of marriage, it is accompanied with regrets. Ask those who have contracted sexually transmitted diseases from sexual relationship and they will tell you their regrets. Ask those who have been blackmailed, victimized, demonized, oppressed and even extorted because of this singular wrong act. Samson will ever regret his tie with Delilah (Judges 16:9).

There is only a temporal pleasure which will definitely usher in a long-term regret!

5.     Justifiable

Some have said they fell into sexual immorality because they were being starved by their spouses, others because of the uncontrollable sexual orgy, sexual pressure, sexual temptation and many reasons. These reasons seem justifiable, but one thing I’ve found out, no matter how justifiable the reasons might be, it always ends up with a feeling of condemnation after the act. Yes, it might seem you have good reasons to give in, but the truth remains that guilt and condemnation awaits you at the other end irrespective of the reasons why you fall.

It is justifiable but leaves one condemned!

6.     Looks Simple

It might look simple to just go into bed with that person and think that is all. It doesn’t end there. It’s more than that. A soul-tie is created. Illicit sex triggers a process that can’t be explained. That is why it’s very difficult to break such relationships once it has been created. Judah thought all would just end after his affair with a supposed prostitute but the reverse was the case (Genesis 38).

Illicit sexual relationship might looks simple but it is actually complex!

7.     Momentary

A singular affair which many think will just last for one day has ruined destinies, reshaped lives and had long lasting negative impact which they never bargained for. The book of Proverbs gives a picture of a young man that sheepishly goes after a prostitute with this words: “He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks; Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life”.Proverbs 7:22-23.

The act is momentary but the after effect will definitely last longer than you can predict!

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